“How do I tell my 30 years old daughter that her brother is her father”— Woman reveals in an anonymous post

A woman in dilemma seeks the public advice and suggestion on how to break her daughter’s unusual paternity to her.

According to her, she and her husband are in the know about the case and even arrived at the decision because the husband had a vasectomy.

The husband previously has two children for an ex and did the vasectomy surgery. When he met the recent woman and got married, they decided to have a child together but as he no longer could impregnate a woman, they decided that the woman undergoes an IVF where the stepson’s sperm was fertilized by her egg.

Read her post on Atlantic Dear Therapist below:

Dear Therapist,

When I married my husband, he had two adult children, and I had none. We both wanted to have a child together, but my husband had a vasectomy after his second child was born—too long ago to get the procedure reversed.

We didn’t want to use a sperm bank, so we asked my husband’s son to be the donor. We felt that was the best decision: Our child would have my husband’s genes, and we knew my stepson’s health, personality, and intelligence. He agreed to help.

Our daughter is 30 now. How do we tell her that her “father” is her grandfather, her “brother” is her father, her “sister” is her aunt, and her “nephew” is her half-brother?

My husband and I are anxious, confused, and worried about telling her. This is also hard on my husband, because he wants our daughter to know that he will always and forever be her father.

What are your thoughts on this?